It's been almost 5 months of married life and although I love it, I know that James and I do miss parts of our lives from before the wedding and living together. This post is basically talking about how it's ok to be married and mourn your old life, it happens to everyone and it doesn't stop at getting married. It happens to new parents and it happens whenever change occurs. We always look back at these moments in our lives and think "I had it so good then." We almost romanticize the old because we are putting away the bad memories and moments that occurred without considering that both the good and bad happen whether it be the past, the present, or the future.
It’s the Little Things
Before James and I were married, I was excite about the wedding and living together and Before James and I were married, I was excited about the wedding and living together and having a kid. Real big picture stuff, you know? And the wedding was cool and living together has been going pretty well but over the last 4 months instead of looking at the journey of where we're headed, I find I'm enjoying the smaller moments in our life.
8 strange things people say when you’re married young
Hypothesis: People have different reactions to young married couples and they always feel the need to comment on how they feel about it.
Christmas with the In Laws
So this past weekend I went down with James, his parents, and his middle brother on a 4 hour car drive to Ossining NY for a family Christmas get together. I had never been in a car with his family for more than 30 minutes and I was pretty anxious about how the weekend was going to go. Not only were we driving down together but we were also spending the night at his grandparents house (which I had never slept in) and were going to be meeting up with 13 more family members, most of which I hadn't seen since our wedding in August!
The Negative
We had a pregnancy scare last Sunday. I had been feeling icky earlier that Friday and was feeling intense urges to vomit anytime I looked at or heard the word "sushi." My sense of smell had increased and my aversion to certain foods intensified. I had planned to find a gynecologist to get an IUD since we moved 4 months ago but I never seemed to have time to schedule an appointment. Because of this, we've been relying on the good ol' pill, which is fine for most people but I'm not exactly the most timely person...whoops.
After the Wedding
James and I dated for 3 and a half years before we got married. We never lived together and for almost 2 years we did LDR. After our wedding in August, I moved to Ithaca, NY, James' hometown, and have settled into a home, job, and life here. Marriage is interesting, there are things that changed about our relationship and there are things that haven't changed.
The One With The Wedding
To be honest, I’m not sure I’m ready to talk about this yet. But the more I hesitate to talk or write about it, the more I realize that maybe others feel the same way as I do.
The Post-Wedding Photo Shoot
You spend years thinking about the perfect wedding dress. Your man finally gets up the courage and proposes and now it is time! Break out the champagne and call up the girlfriends cuz it's go time! After a couple hours or days depending on who you are, you've found the ONE. The dress you have been dreaming about your whole life and girl you are SMOKING in it!
The Hypothesis
Hypothesis: Marriage is exciting, crazy, and full of telling your husband to do his own laundry, among many other challenges.
A Field Guide to Marrying Young 